I have a warrant out for me? I don't suppose we have any lawyers here....

[suprarx7nut]

Hang in there kid, your doing great. Thoughts and prays are with you and John.

Pretty much my thoughts. I feel for ya, Laura. Financial troubles blow. I've always had my parents to help bail me out in case of financial mishaps, normally due to car repairs and such.(They're not exactly wealthy, just too damn nice) I can't imagine what I'd do if I didn't have that to fall back on. (fwiw, I'm talking about *before* owning the Supras. )

Anyways, you'll make it through and in a few weeks this will all be a distant memory.

Hang in there!

 

[DsBetterHalf]

My parents have been a HUGE help to me, emotionally as well as financially. But it's hard for me to accept much from them - my father is paralyzed, and doesn't work. My mother is the main breadwinner for the household, so even though she makes good money, she is the one responsible for everything.

It's nice to know that some families are always there for one another. John's family - yeah, they suck balls. His mother hasn't even sent him a letter, much less gone to visit him.

 

[Supracentral]

My parents have been a HUGE help to me, emotionally as well as financially. But it's hard for me to accept much from them - my father is paralyzed, and doesn't work. My mother is the main breadwinner for the household, so even though she makes good money, she is the one responsible for everything.

I guess the question is would your presence help or hurt them? If your mom is already carrying the load, would adding your pay to the mix help? If you're free from the bills of a household, can you cover the rest of your expenses? Would there be anything left over to help her out? What about when Doward gets out? Is he welcome there too? Adding his pay to the mix, could you make life easier for your mom for a while? Sometimes disasters like this can help as well.

I don't know all the specifics, so that's your call.

It's nice to know that some families are always there for one another. John's family - yeah, they suck balls. His mother hasn't even sent him a letter, much less gone to visit him.

My parents have always been there for me. I know where you are coming from with this. I guess what I was trying to get at in my posts is to minimize the damage. If you go under, will your mom wind up having to help clean up a bigger mess? I know it's hard to put emotion aside, but what's the best logical choice for you? Only you know the answer to that because you are the only one with all the data.

 

[BlackSS]

The great thing about credit is that what's his is his, and what's yours, is yours. Just cause ya'll are married doesn't mean anything credit wise gets combined. That being said, John's truck, and his credit card bills should be the last thing on your list to pay....if you even pay them. You love your car.....stop paying for insurance/loan on the truck before selling the ion. I wouldn't even worry about his credit cards either.....or yours at this point. There's some good advice in here on how/what you should pay (supracentral), I'd listen to it. Your responsible for half the rent and electric, that was the deal, and that's what you have to come up as far as house bills go. Cable is another ball game....you don't need it, so don't pay it. Drop it down so all you have is phone/internet......if the roomies want cable, they can pay for the extra service. I know that Cox has like 3 or 4 different tiers for internet. Drop yours to the lowest priced internet tier, and just get the phone service. Split that with roomies....and let them know if they want cable, they need to pay for the full amount of the extra service.

 

[DsBetterHalf]

The credit bills are at the bottom of my list of stuff to pay. As for the decision on the car...it makes the most sense. It will save me the most money, in the long run, so it will go. Yes, it breaks my heart. Yes, it sucks massive donkey balls. But that's life.

I can't stop paying insurance on his truck...it's all on the same insurance, his truck, my car, and the Honda.

And I'm not going to make a conscious decision to screw up John's credit. Just because our credit doesn't get "combined" once we are married, doesn't mean it doesn't affect me down the road. When we finally get set up right, and can buy a house...they look at both credit scores. If I ever get a new car, I need a co-signer, they will look at John's first.

 

[ForcedTorque]

We are looking at 2 more weeks!!!!!!!! Do what you gotta do until then to keep what you have, and keep the roommates that you have. John can help you get out of the mess with another full time income when he gets there. I don't know the status of his job before this though. He may just be another mouth to feed until he finds a job.

 

[Supra Elf]

flaming worthless roomate here: im not going to join in on the flame party, because i have already said my peice to laura in person today, of which i dont feel everything needs to go on this board. However i do find it quite dissapointing that some people on here just feel the need to take a quite one sided story and throw someone under the bus. i'm not too pissed anymore about what was said simply becuz she needs to flame off at the mouth, and understandably so, but i would appreciate it a bit more if i wasnt just trashed on the damn internet, i dont know most of you, because my hand was forced to sell my supra long ago. laura isnt the only person having a hard time with this. while like some have said, i dont have to help out at all, and especially when such help appears as very unappreciated, thats not how i feel. not trying to sound gay here, but I have known john for near ten years and he is like a brother to me. So no matter how much i end up having to forgoe, and pissed i may get at him, i'd never leave him hanging. I dont feel i need to justify buying my bike, for the simple reason it was mine to do so, but i got a killer deal, and i am making payments to the guy. i miss john as well, hell before he went in, we spent more time hangin out then we did with either significant other , which has always been a bitching point for them. i just dont appreciate it being thought on here that i am livin the high life whilst i watch her suffer. unfortunately i cant just throw limitless amounts of money to them for help, but what i can i do, even WHEN i read this shit. so if everyone pleases could we please redirect this crap away from flaming/defending the roomates.

 

[ForcedTorque]

Well said Elf. And he even used Please after he has been dragged through the mud. Respect given!

 

[IJ.]

Elf: Don't stress it was only Goon and no one actually pays any attention to him

 

[gaboonviper85]

Elf: Don't stress it was only Goon and no one actually pays any attention to him

so cold and loanly in my world. if I just had one wish it would be for someone to listen to me bitch and complain.

 

[IJ.]

Anyone else hear that noise??

 

[Poodles]

nah, I think you're just hearing things since you're old...

 

[Quin]

It's a good sign, his ears aren't clogged with hair yet.

Laura said you had a big truck, you buying a bike might save you as much or more in gas than you're paying a month for it, yet no one noticed that. That was the first thing I thought of when I read that, but of course without knowing the whole story we can't say either way. Really not our business anyway.

 

[suprabad]

How did I miss this thread til now??? (rhetorical...don't pm me and tell me..."because you're stupid")

I wish I would have seen this earlier. I could have cleared up some of his confusion with regard to this matters inevitable outcome. i.e. Once a sentence has been imposed by a court, the court will see to it that the sentence is carried out. No statute of limitations, no breaks because you've not been picked up or re-offended...they don't care.

It's all about exercising authority, which, when you think about it, is all the court has to demonstrate control. Point is, most courts and judges and prosecutors will not co-operate or negotiate on any imposed, but not yet served sentence. Their mentality is "why should we revisit the disposition of a case that's concluded"?

Also, the courts (rightly) feel that if they did revisit sentences prior to to execution of said sentence (particularly when the convicted party has avoided or neglected to serve the sentence), that they would (by modifying or lowering the severity of the sentence) undermine their own authority.

It would have been wiser to give whatever money Doward raised to his girlfriend, as apposed to a lawyer (who should have known that he wasn't going to get a disposition of sentence modified, especially after the fact) and turned himself in, he might have even been able to serve it in weekends had he not been picked-up.

I know it's "after the fact" advice, but maybe it will save someone else (in a similar position) some grief.

I was sorry to hear this, I hope everything goes well for Doward and his gf in the future, and wish them well.

 

[IJ.]

Wife not GF

 

[DsBetterHalf]

Yes, wife.

Really unhappy with the attorney, at this point. Maybe you can clear up some more confusion for me, suprabad?? Or anyone else for that matter. Since I have power of attorney for Doward while he is locked up, doesn't that mean I can discuss the case with his attorney? Especially considering that the attorney has made no contact with Doward in the 5 weeks he has been in jail? No letter, no visitation, nadda. On the phone today, even with the P. of A., I was told (almost rudely, in fact), that he could not discuss the case with me AT ALL. Maybe I am wrong, and I will read over the P. of A. again later tonight while I'm at work, but I thought that having it would allow me to deal with Polak, especially since, like I said before, Polak isn't dealing with Doward.

 

[Facime]

Ifm no lawyer but it seems to me being his f'n wife makes you privy to his legal information. I think you may want to contact the Bar Association and register a complaint about the lawyer. I would demand that they provide you with detailed billing information immediately as well. I dont know the geography, but how far is the lawyers office from you? Sometimes a little face to face is needed to set a lawyer straight.

 

[DsBetterHalf]

Apparently not. It seems that even though we are married, he can not discuss the case with me, due to privacy laws.

We've asked about the billing, and been informed in a round-about way that if he does that, it will show up to be more than we paid, and we will have to pay the difference. The $1500 rate was lower than his normal fee, because we are friends with his newest employee. Kind of a discounted "friend" rate, if that makes sense?

His office is about an hour away, and about 1/2 tank of gas, which I can't really afford right now. And since he won't deal with me at all, it's kind of a moot point.

 

[Facime]

We've asked about the billing, and been informed in a round-about way that if he does that, it will show up to be more than we paid, and we will have to pay the difference. The $1500 rate was lower than his normal fee, because we are friends with his newest employee. Kind of a discounted "friend" rate, if that makes sense?

Ummm...if Im not mistaken that is fraud. Lawyers have very strict billing regulations impossed by the bar. What they are doing is threatening you into not asking for documentation of what exactly they did for the money you did give them. They cant just go and raise the rate simply because you want it accounted for. I would definately tell the bar association this information.

It would be like me going and getting my car worked on at a shop, getting it home to find out the shop did nothing, then when I ask for an itemized reciept of what they did they tell me, "I cant do that or Im going to have to bill you more"

Did you pay them in cash? did you get any kind of reciept for the retainer fee?

Jesus Christ! Fucked by the legal system AGAIN! if its not the courts its a shyster attorney. Of course they KNOW you dont have the money to hire a lawyer to sue the lawyer...and people wonder what makes other people go postal! :nono:

 

[DsBetterHalf]

I have the receipt where we paid $1500 in cash. I have to find it, but Doward has all of the paperwork from the last time he saw his attorney, I need to go through it all and see what exactly is there.