So i spoke with Curt @ elmhurst toyota this morning, you can only get the bearings as a full set, he said although it would be a strange request i can return the bearings if for some reason they don't fit. I don't have measurements for the rod journals, So i dissasembled, placed 2 bearings with tabs facing out, sticking about a quarter inch out the side of the rod, torqued it up, and measured the outside of the bearings. Using this approximate number, the thickness of my crank for the rods, and the thickness of the old rod bearings, i came up with the same of about -0.0112 clearance... so i guess since my machinist told me standard sizes, I just ordered the .25 over for both rods & mains since that's what appears to have been there before. So either it will all work out perfectly by some miracle, or re-grind here i come.
LET THIS BE A LESSON TO ALL YOU NEWBIES BUILDING A 7M!!!
Learn from my mistakes, make sure your machinist understands these precise clearances, and knows to have parts in hand before removing any material off of anything!!!