I believe the problem is that you are switching 12v to the aux input wire, but it is a ground trigger. So if you follow the diagram for the Stinger, you need a single pole, double throw switch, or they might call it: (ON)-ON or SPCO with no off position in the center. The NC (normally closed) pin goes to 12v, the Common pin goes to the Stinger, and the NO (normally open) pin goes to ground. I think you could probably get away without having 12v for NC, but they do that because it's possible if you leave that pin floating (not connected to 12v or ground), it
could get electrical noise and cause the rev limiter to kick on intermittently. Make sure you have the 2 step feature enabled under the "input control circuits" tab in the "aux settings" menu.
To test it, just disconnect the wire from your switch that goes to 12v, and connect it to ground instead.
EDIT: here's a diagram I made