theWeezL;1070602 said:
It is only justified if the women return the favor to the same guy. Why should I have to suffer major heartache for the wrong doings of some previous asshole.
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It is only justified if the women return the favor to the same guy. Why should I have to suffer major heartache for the wrong doings of some previous asshole.
MkIII_Jeff said:
Exactly.
theWeezL said:
This one definitely goes both ways, and I'm sure there are a number of us here who've found ourselves in that situation.
MkIII_Jeff;1070605 said:
you shouldnt, I didnt say it was justified, just understandable.
I did say it was justified, lol. but I dindt quite mean it like that. I guess what I mean is that.. Much of the hate women have for men is justified.
It also SEEMS rare, though it may not be, that people do give themselves time to heal in between relationships. When you bounce from one person to the next you never give yourself time to lose some of the baggage. One can't help but bring all their past problems into a new relationship when they do that.
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Poodles, it's good to hear that you are doing better. Keep it up dude. It took me a few months to get the right perspective, and haven't looked back since.
Here are a few videos to get you back on track. These are PURE GOLD. You will be back in the
oon: in no time. :biglaugh::icon_bigg
http://youtube.com/watch?v=ZrmFGSM1h44
http://youtube.com/watch?v=epriMrqo06M
http://youtube.com/watch?v=qj2wYVUh7Gw
Here are a few videos to get you back on track. These are PURE GOLD. You will be back in the
oon: in no time. :biglaugh::icon_bigghttp://youtube.com/watch?v=ZrmFGSM1h44
http://youtube.com/watch?v=epriMrqo06M
http://youtube.com/watch?v=qj2wYVUh7Gw
These vids are funny - nice find. Also, I didn't know we had that poon smiley, but it's awesome.
MkIII_Jeff;1070700 said:Here are a few videos to get you back on track. These are PURE GOLD. You will be back in the
"Welcome to as far as you're gonna get"
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great picture... not exactly what I need...
Anyway I'm bumping this because I'm still feeling horrible.
I feel like I've made the biggest mistake in my life...
Anyway I'm bumping this because I'm still feeling horrible.
I feel like I've made the biggest mistake in my life...
Poodles;1078830 said:
dont worry you are young...theres still time to make bigger mistakes! :sarcasm:
Thats probably not helping is it?
Poodles;1078830 said:
It's the country music dude.
Seriously, turn that shit off. I'm not kidding.
It'll take time for you to feel better. It hasn't been that long yet, hang in there.
Hell, if Doward can make it through 2 months in the slammer...
Generally speaking, I've gotten that way.
Don't know why... been to couselors and shrinks for years. Been on antidepresants too, but they never really worked, just made me feel outwardly "normal" but still the same inside.
Don't know why... been to couselors and shrinks for years. Been on antidepresants too, but they never really worked, just made me feel outwardly "normal" but still the same inside.
suprarx7nut;1078900 said:It's the country music dude.
Seriously, turn that shit off. I'm not kidding.
It'll take time for you to feel better. It hasn't been that long yet, hang in there.
Hell, if Doward can make it through 2 months in the slammer...
Yeah, but at least he knows he's coming home to the one he loves. Sure, she's gonna be a bit pissed, but at least she's there...
man you gotta give it more time....but keeping this thread alive will never help dude. Stop listening to country music...and just stop talking about it honestly....hide the pain deep down cause if people know you are miserable then they are going to want you to talk about it keeping those memories alive...nothing you do will make it better only time makes it better....till then it just sucks!
I personally cannot listen to a select few songs, cannot watch the movie borat or the greenmile, all because these things remind me of my ex cause she liked these things. It's been over a year for me and have had other women in the meantime but not a day goes by that I don't think of her....but now it's like "damn could she fuck!"...other than that I don't give a damn...aslong as I don't listen to certain songs n such.
I personally cannot listen to a select few songs, cannot watch the movie borat or the greenmile, all because these things remind me of my ex cause she liked these things. It's been over a year for me and have had other women in the meantime but not a day goes by that I don't think of her....but now it's like "damn could she fuck!"...other than that I don't give a damn...aslong as I don't listen to certain songs n such.
Music, any music, can be hard when you are depressed. When my wife and I first separated I was listening to alot Staind and Three Doors Down. Certain songs made me both sad, and mad that I was sad (if that makes sense). Its been over two years and I still am not over it. I know this doesnt help, but I really dont think I will ever get over it, I only know that I will learn to live with it better.
As for Gaboons advice to bottle it up and not talk about it.....That is the single WORST advice Ive heard, and yet it is a typical male responce. Any halfway decent therapist will tell you that bottling up your emotions and not dealing with them will lead to long term problems. The BEST thing you can do is exactly what you are doing. Keep this thread alive as long as you need it, I will always be willing to try to help.
A failed relationship is exactly like a death in terms of how we deal with it. there is a very specific grieving process that takes place and some people have a harder time with it than others. The wiki is short and understandable HERE. Its hard to see now but you WILL reach the acceptance phase at some point, and life will be a bit easier then.
As for Gaboons advice to bottle it up and not talk about it.....That is the single WORST advice Ive heard, and yet it is a typical male responce. Any halfway decent therapist will tell you that bottling up your emotions and not dealing with them will lead to long term problems. The BEST thing you can do is exactly what you are doing. Keep this thread alive as long as you need it, I will always be willing to try to help.
A failed relationship is exactly like a death in terms of how we deal with it. there is a very specific grieving process that takes place and some people have a harder time with it than others. The wiki is short and understandable HERE. Its hard to see now but you WILL reach the acceptance phase at some point, and life will be a bit easier then.
theWeezL;1079237 said:
:word8kn: try not to stress too much, focus on activities and friends. Eventually you will be ok.
1AM, cant sleep tonight because I let my ex-wife creep into my brain and the longer this goes on the more I fuckin want to hate her. I think one thing that might help is to purge myself of a few photos and videos I took of her....that lets just say her parents wouldnt be proud of.
So Im gonna post em online. I mean, it couldnt hurt could it?
dont want to threadjack, just wanted you to know I know how ya feel man.
Edit: VV how wierd is that...IJ what time is it there, lol
So Im gonna post em online. I mean, it couldnt hurt could it?
dont want to threadjack, just wanted you to know I know how ya feel man.
Edit: VV how wierd is that...IJ what time is it there, lol