I have no idea what to title this...
- Thread starter Poodles
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Wow I was in the same exact shoes as poodles 5 years ago, high school sweet hearts meet junior year of high school, we worked together, lost my virginity to her, also had sex in my first supra with her...
After 3 year of being together and thinking I was going to mary this girl I get slamed by the news from her "best friend" that she had been cheating on me ever since prom senior year.
Totaly crushed I confronted her about it, she didnt even defend herself and we broke up, I had to change jobs, and I sold my supra but I bought another one, stayed single for 4 months and meet the girl am currenlty with and have been with her for 4.5 years now never been happier...
After 3 year of being together and thinking I was going to mary this girl I get slamed by the news from her "best friend" that she had been cheating on me ever since prom senior year.
Totaly crushed I confronted her about it, she didnt even defend herself and we broke up, I had to change jobs, and I sold my supra but I bought another one, stayed single for 4 months and meet the girl am currenlty with and have been with her for 4.5 years now never been happier...
I really don't know if she was cheating on me, it was just an odd dream (nightmare) I had that raised my suspicions. It doesn't help that I'm insecure either.
You know what though? I've risen above hate long ago, and I'll just let her go now and if it's meant to be our paths will cross again.
Life is just to damn fucked up and short to not keep the options open. People change and mature. A good example is one of my ex's that I stopped talking to for a couple years then all of a sudden our paths crossed again. She's grown up and we get along a lot better as friends now.
I just wish it wasn't so damn hot out right now, hard to get out of the house when even a short drive leaves me on the verge of heatstroke...
You know what though? I've risen above hate long ago, and I'll just let her go now and if it's meant to be our paths will cross again.
Life is just to damn fucked up and short to not keep the options open. People change and mature. A good example is one of my ex's that I stopped talking to for a couple years then all of a sudden our paths crossed again. She's grown up and we get along a lot better as friends now.
I just wish it wasn't so damn hot out right now, hard to get out of the house when even a short drive leaves me on the verge of heatstroke...
Poodles, its the night before the 4th, noone has work tomorrow. See if any of the local guys are meeting up tonight. Get out of the house and mingle with females somewhere.
The best time in Texas is after the sun goes down. Wait until the evening and go for a little drive. A little spirited driving always clears my head. (This does not mean go nuts and wreck your car, but a nice twisty road can get your mind off life if even for a few minutes)
foreverpsycotic;1068792 said:
Agreed start becoming more active in your local supra community
you can meet some awesome people most of the time!!!
After finding out all the info from friends, I'm the one that screwed this up.
Don't blame her, I don't know how she put up with it for so long...
Don't blame her, I don't know how she put up with it for so long...
Did she ever sit you down and talk about it, giving you a chance to work on the issues? Or did she sit there in silence, waiting for you to read her mind, until she decided she was over it and ended the relationship?
I'm sure she has just as much blame in this as you do. If you want to put her on a pedestal and pretend she's a saint, then that's your perogative. If I was you, I wouldn't be taking all the blame though, unless I was getting all the credit when things were going good. Good luck resolving this to where you're happy. I wish you the best.
Poodles;1069023 said:
So just how did happen to come across this "FACT"
Did you and her get together for talks? Or is it some sort of drunken swear by the suspected friend?
wetboosteddreams;1069304 said:
Thats apparently what my wife did. Even after we were seperated, and I quit drinking/smoking/playing computer games and vowed to make any other change needed, she still said nothing. Its amazing to me how women are able to turn off love like flipping a switch.
She wasn't in full silence about it, but it's kinda how it played out. When we did kinda of sit down and talk about it, it's when we broke up. We both needed to do it earlier, but we never had the time nor the will to. When I saw her when she dropped my stuff off, I think she was expecting me to try and fix it, and I'm hating myself for not doing so.
I spoke to the friend, and he would have told me the truth, I know him well enough, and he's not that local to me...
Not to mention I did what I shouldn't have and kept after her trying to get her to talk to me. I told her I'd give her space, but I didn't allow her to figure stuff out.
I don't take full blame, but she was friends with you guys too, and doesn't deserve to be beaten upon when I was mostly at fault, but the lack of communication was on both our parts...
I spoke to the friend, and he would have told me the truth, I know him well enough, and he's not that local to me...
Not to mention I did what I shouldn't have and kept after her trying to get her to talk to me. I told her I'd give her space, but I didn't allow her to figure stuff out.
I don't take full blame, but she was friends with you guys too, and doesn't deserve to be beaten upon when I was mostly at fault, but the lack of communication was on both our parts...
CTsupra
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Sorry to hear, Poodles. Didn't read the thread, but just take it day by day and go out. Don't stay couped up in your house. Do what you want to do, go finish school (If you haven't). You'll be fine in a couple months.
I want to make this public.
Don't hate her. She was everyone's friend too, and usually even more so since she was a lot more social than I was.
She really enjoyed the meets, and now doesn't feel like she could go to them because she doesn't want to be hated.
Don't hate her. She was everyone's friend too, and usually even more so since she was a lot more social than I was.
She really enjoyed the meets, and now doesn't feel like she could go to them because she doesn't want to be hated.
Not knowing the two of you personally, I have nothing against her. She hasn't been there posting endless helpful threads like you though. I have just tried to give you advise to help you carry on, without letting this drag you down, or worse, having you sell the car and leave the community. I just hate to see anybody mope around after a relationship, and waste their life waiting on somebody to come back that doesn't want to. Carry on without her, and if the two of you cross paths again, so be it. Just don't waste yourself in the mean time.
