UPDATE: On SF it was recommended to rebalance the wheels with a RoadForce balancer:
http://www.gsp9700.com/index.cfm After looking into it, it does solve problems for a lot of people.
I just had all 4 tires rebalanced at a shop with the roadforce machine, and they said they are better balanced now than before, but the wheels are not perfect (I got them used), and also the tires are not perfect either.. "lumpy" they call them. I wasn't too happy to hear that, considering that they are the top street tire by BF Goodrich that I bought brand new 2000 miles ago. (2 years ago now)
But the car is much smoother at higher speeds now. A little vibration still at 85, but totally smooth beyond that. I can live with it for now. Don't like the thought of having to buy new custom offset wheels and tires!!
However: They pointed out that my right rear wheel bearing has play. I checked it, and the edge of the tire does move maybe 0.5mm, compared to the others which have no play at all. BOTH rear and 1 front bearings were replaced 2000 miles ago. Could the offset of the rear wheels wear out a new OEM bearing that fast??