Thoughts on my current lady situation

[SupraDerk]

Ok, so today things took a change. I've actually been avoiding dating and having a girlfriend for awhile because I didn't want to deal with the drama...(and having a girl isn't cheap, haha). But a couple days ago, my old best girlfriend (I've talked about her a couple times on here now, haha) IM'ed me out of the blue on AIM. We hadn't talked in like 3 months and before that we maybe talked once a month. But anyways, she was like "I just got back from vacation...and I think we should hang out." So I was like..."uhh, ok." So in the last couple of days we've been talking a lot...like a few hours a day.

But here's the catch! Today when I was talking to her...she brought up one of my old friends who she had a crush on in high school and was like: (the previous way I typed this out sounded like a 12 year old valley girl...conversation mode, activate!)...(also, for those that may not have read my last post on her...the reason we stopped pseudo-dating and being friends, was because she decided that she HAD to marry my best guy friend during our first christmas break in college)

Her: "So have you heard from Nick?(the guy)"
Me: "No...why? You have a crush?"
Her: " *almost instantly* NO!... you have a crush"
Me: "I hung out with him once."
Her: "I just think sometimes whatever happened to him"
Me: "Sounds like your no really means yes"
Her: "You're an idiot!"

So naturally I brought up one of her old friends I used to have a crush on and she started trash talking the girl instantly...but said they were still good friends, haha. What are your thoughts on this!? Think she's just trying to see if she can still get me...or you think she's really trying to get? Or just playing stupid head games...god I hate girls sometimes...

This is only half the story, but I talk about that later, I wanna know what ya'll think about this part so far.

 

[Pokey]

shes using you:nono:

 

[Joel W.]

:hitit:

Life is short, get some while you can...

 

[SupraDerk]

Yeah, I think she's just seeing if she could reel me in again...but my god I really want to do this girl, haha...but like in the other group I want to wait for a chick I think is worth it...which was this chick a couple years ago. DAMMIT! This is exactly the reason why I've avoided this shit...

But wait til you hear the other part of this story...

 

[Loki]

Piitp.


/thread.

 

[Pokey]

Yeah, I think she's just seeing if she could reel me in again...but my god I really want to do this girl, haha...but like in the other group I want to wait for a chick I think is worth it...which was this chick a couple years ago. DAMMIT! This is exactly the reason why I've avoided this shit...

But wait til you hear the other part of this story...

:arcadefre Waiting

 

[SupraDerk]

Haha, I wanted to know what people thought about that part so far cause it's the option I'm considering persuing right now, but I'll type up the second part now

 

[suprahero]

:ttiwwp:

Come on Derk, you know the rules.................We can't help you with your decision unless we see what she looks like. She could be a he for all we know. We need pictures........................:biglaugh:

 

[SupraDerk]

Ok, so rewind to like two weeks ago. My brother tells me that his fiance has a friend that is DYING to me meet me. So I was like "what the hell did you tell this girl??" and he was like "I just told her about you and she really REALLY wants to meet you now. You better meet this girl cause she's turned down a couple of dates waiting on YOU." So I was like alright, whatever I'll meet her. He was like "well she's only here for awhile, she lives in washington state...but is about to finish school and would be willing to move out here (florida) if you all hit it off."

So I was kind of scared at this point cause she sounded kind of crazy. But I met her a little over a week ago and turns out we hit it off. She's very much my type of woman, but she lives in Washington. She said she's open to the idea of an open relationship and that it would be fine to just be "boyfriend-girlfriend" when we're in the sameplace together. But I don't know about long distance things...seems like a waste of time. The only good thing I can imagine coming from it would be to say that I have a girlfriend to girls around here so that it might make me a little more appealing, lol.

She's heading back to Washington in a couple weeks, so I don't know what I plan on doing with her. Maybe I'll persue it...maybe not. But if those two haven't screwed me up enough.

This afternoon I got a call...it was other chick from high school that I used to REALLY like, but she didn't want anything to do with me back then. She was like:

Her: "Hey, I know we haven't talked in a long time but I figured we could catch up some. I think I'm also moving back but who knows! Call me back."

So it's like a triple whammy with this BS lately.

Discuss! haha

 

[Pokey]

mark out the second girl, long distance wont work, and if shes willin to move in that short of time of knowing you, too much trouble you will find later on down the road,

mark out 3rd too, she is probably just wanting a booty call, who knows?

take option one, if you had a decent past, who knows what the future can hold.....

 

[suprahero]

or...............try to talk all three of them into a SupraDerk sandwhich.........:naughty:










J.K. I wish you the best, and I'm afraid you're the only one that can make this decision. Good luck though..............lol

 

[Pokey]

or...............try to talk all three of them into a SupraDerk sandwhich.........:naughty:










J.K. I wish you the best, and I'm afraid you're the only one that can make this decision. Good luck though..............lol

i agree with that too

 

[SupraDerk]

haha I would LOVE the sandwhich idea.

I know which one I WANT to persue...but I remember how it ended the last time. Haha, I told my dad about this and he told me to get over it and try again. But I'm not sure if it's just time to move on away from her or not.

 

[Joel W.]

Do em all!!!

You don't buy the car without test driving it do ya?

 

[Stanzaspeed]

Run away from #1. Chances are after some time you will realise why you two split in the first place. I did the get back together thing before. It took 3 months before it got ugly all over again.

If #2 is into you, id consider trying that option, especially if she is willing to move out there if things get movin (which it sounds like they may be from what you have posted). Have fun with her while shes around and build on the relationship.

Its easy for us who arnt feeling the emotions on a personal level to comment on these things. In the end all we can give is opinions and advice, you need to do what your heart tells you is right if you want to presue a relationship.

it sucks making choices like these, but no risk taken,no rewards earned right?

best of luck with the choice

 

[SupraDerk]

Do em all!!!

You don't buy the car without test driving it do ya?

lol, so very true! If I could I would...I'd have to take multiple "test drives" :naughty:

 

[SupraDerk]

Run away from #1. Chances are after some time you will realise why you two split in the first place. I did the get back together thing before. It took 3 months before it got ugly all over again.

If #2 is into you, id consider trying that option, especially if she is willing to move out there if things get movin (which it sounds like they may be from what you have posted). Have fun with her while shes around and build on the relationship.

Its easy for us who arnt feeling the emotions on a personal level to comment on these things. In the end all we can give is opinions and advice, you need to do what your heart tells you is right if you want to presue a relationship.

it sucks making choices like these, but no risk taken,no rewards earned right?

best of luck with the choice

Yeah, these decisions are pretty queer, haha...but I appreciate the feedback. Most times it helps you realize which route you really want to take. And it's kind of becoming more clear to me (I'm sure ya'll can tell which already, haha).

I've thought about girl #1 a lot for 4 years...and for like 3 1/2 of those 4 years we never talked. I don't want to deal with the shit we went through last time...but like you you said, there's no rewards without risk...hmmmm...

 

[Slow66]

haha I would LOVE the sandwhich idea.

I know which one I WANT to persue...

AHA....theres the problem my friend....pursuing. Do not under any circumstance pursue any of them. Make them pursue you. A coupel of them have already made that call to you, you didnt call them. So i say keep it that way. Ignore them a bit, make them leave voicemails instead of picking up all the time, act dissinterested, etc. If they really want to "be" with you, theyll come around on their own.

Just act as if theyre all useless to you until they prove otherwise. Also, do your best not to get your hopes up as all 3 might end up nowhere, but atleast if you dont get your emotions involved too much, youll come out unscathed. I know its easier said than done, as it can be real easy to get attached, but i find the more girls you can have around/talk to at the same time, the less likely of getting attached with one. Play the field, and let them do all the work.....getting hurt sucks so dont get pulled into their mindgames...lol

Edit-this post was one big ramble, so take it with a grain of salt...lol...

 

[Stanzaspeed]

AHA....theres the problem my friend....pursuing. Do not under any circumstance pursue any of them.

good approach to things. It does often work strangely enough. "you desire most what you cannot have" i suppose comes into play there.

 

[SupraDerk]

AHA....theres the problem my friend....pursuing. Do not under any circumstance pursue any of them. Make them pursue you. A coupel of them have already made that call to you, you didnt call them. So i say keep it that way. Ignore them a bit, make them leave voicemails instead of picking up all the time, act dissinterested, etc. If they really want to "be" with you, theyll come around on their own.

Just act as if theyre all useless to you until they prove otherwise. Also, do your best not to get your hopes up as all 3 might end up nowhere, but atleast if you dont get your emotions involved too much, youll come out unscathed. I know its easier said than done, as it can be real easy to get attached, but i find the more girls you can have around/talk to at the same time, the less likely of getting attached with one. Play the field, and let them do all the work.....getting hurt sucks so dont get pulled into their mindgames...lol

Edit-this post was one big ramble, so take it with a grain of salt...lol...

Good stuff in there! haha, that's how I think all of this came about (well not intentionally ignoring them, but I wasn't talking to two of them). I'm trying my best to keep it like I don't care. I make sure I'm ALWAYS the one that ends the conversations...and I'm trying to cut down on talking to girl #1 so much.

Haha, but it's kind of hard to not get caught up in all the female attention all of the sudden.

good approach to things. It does often work strangely enough. "you desire most what you cannot have" i suppose comes into play there.

It's so very true. I'm trying to make myself as scarce as possible to them while I think it out. I actually think I might just stop thinking about this though and let it play out cause it's already starting to bug me, lol