So I was thinking today's a good day to ask her out...does this sound OK?

[Figit090]

Well things didn't quite fly, I still think I'll ask her out but not today so I no longer really have a problem. I got some opinions that helped me think about different ways to go about it and I'm good now. Thanks to all who helped!!

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There's a girl that i've been friends with for a couple years, and I dont get to see her much but I like her and I get the feeling she likes me. (although i've never been that great at figuring out these things).

So i thought maybe today's an opportune day to ask her out.

Would it be a good idea to take flowers to her school's office and have them delivered near the end of her last class? I was thinking I could ask her out in a little note, attached to the flowers, and tell her to meet me outside in the parking lot after school. I have about 45 minutes after my classes end to when her school lets out. (she's a year behind me,still in HS)

I dunno, what do you guys think? bad idea? or maybe just the "meet me here" part? I'm trying to avoid as much awkwardness as possible, and I dont do this much.

 

[suprahero]

If you have her number, call her and ask her if she's free. If she saids yes then ask her out and take her flowers then. Don't sound desperate and try to be funny as often as possible.

 

[momodu7]

If you have her number, call her and ask her if she's free. If she saids yes then ask her out and take her flowers then. Don't sound desperate and try to be funny as often as possible.

:withstupi ive been there before.

 

[DegreE]

If you've been friends for acouple years, then forget it.


Not trying to be mean or anything. I've been in this situation a couple times back in the day.

 

[IJ.]

Flowers thing is a bit over the top and may be embarrasing for her.

 

[Figit090]

ok. thanks guys.

she has no cell...

and yeah flowers might be a bit embarrassing...

but then again it's a highschool so they have a thing where you can buy your valentine a "valentune" where a few musicians sing and play music for them, and give them flowers. all of this DURING class.

isn't that more embarrassing and over the top?

meh.. i dunno.

i have to think about it.

----edit----

about the friend thing...it doesnt really feel like it would be that much of a problem IMO. i mean, i could see and have seen on a few occasions how that could be but, this is different...i have a feeling she does like me. its just kinda *complicated* lol. but yeah thanks for your opinions.

 

[shaeff]

a single long stem rose.

 

[Figit090]

maybe i won't even do the flower. i might wait a day or a few and then meet up with her. its difficult to get a hold of her sometimes...and with no cell phone i rely on email and she only checks it once or twice a day. but we'll see i guess. i was going to use today as a good excuse to ask but, its not really going to easy to work out.

 

[JustAnotherVictim]

A vibrating dildo.

 

[Ckanderson]

A vibrating dildo.

or anal beads

 

[Figit090]

fuck here we go....

 

[SupraDerk]

Drive out to where she lives and ASK IN PERSON!!! If you must, call her and ask her, but for god's sake don't do it over the internet and don't do it in any kind of note.


It's not impossible for you to ask out one of your friends, just be ready for the friendship to possibly go down the shitter if she says no.

 

[Figit090]

^ thanks. that helps. i was kinda worried about asking in a note, that idea is gone. lol. It was my attempt to alleviate akwardness of asking her to meet me somewhere in haste on this day.

Since i'm going to wait it won't be a problem and I'll do whatever i choose to casually, and driving out to her house isn't a bad idea now that you mention it.

whatever i do it will be in person...no worries.

The friendship thing going down the tube is a difficult thing... i hope that as long as I don't push it I'll be ok.

I realized though that I have some other things to work out first before i ask her. A while ago we were going to go bowling together so I could give her a x-mas present and spend some time together and it fell through...and she was really upset because something happened at home. I dont know what yet, or if it even has to do with me. its complicated, like I said, and her mom's really protective/sheltering of her. it makes it that much more difficult for me to talk to her. but if that something did have to do with me I have to find out what it was before i do anything. I got a bit ahead of myself.

thanks for the tips guys! I really appreciate it. except those kinky sex toy comments. lol....

 

[Ckanderson]

fuck here we go....

double ended dildo?

 

[Figit090]

dude....lol.. fuck you.

 

[JustAnotherVictim]

How about both.

 

[Loki]

If you've been friends for acouple years, then forget it.


Not trying to be mean or anything. I've been in this situation a couple times back in the day.

I disagree. My g/f and I have been friends for 6 years now and have been dating for about a year now.

 

[AF1JZ]

Man, if she doesn't have a cell phone, something has to be wrong


Loki, I'm guesing your taking about the girl in your avatar? :naughty: Very Nice!!! <Borat Voice>

 

[Figit090]

I disagree. My g/f and I have been friends for 6 years now and have been dating for about a year now.

Yeah, this isn't one of those risky feeling ones. Any other I'd be more worried but...from my end...doesn't seem like a HUGE issue.

Man, if she doesn't have a cell phone, something has to be wrong


Loki, I'm guesing your taking about the girl in your avatar? :naughty: Very Nice!!! <Borat Voice>

hah...yeah she doesn't fit the stereotypical highschool girl, or any highschooler for that matter as far as a cellphone. she's really nice though, and we get along great, and she's going to be at my school in the same major next year. I've been hoping things will work out. its just so damn difficult getting to see her.

Apparently her mom gets really over worked about the whole "boy" thing and I guess me having male parts makes me someone to watch out for. moreso than other cases though, they (her and her sis) are reluctant to do anything involving other people...they're the stay at home type and live further away from town than most kids..

 

[savannahashlee]

Ghey....Ask her out or bring her flowers on a different day.. maybe 2-3 weeks from now, for no reason.. not because of some sappy commercial holiday..be more special