OH MY GOD this is a horrible few weeks... [vent]

[lagged]

girls are easy. well, getting laid is easy. its relationships that are difficult.

 

[Keros]

ok so before i start off again please don't worry or go out of your way for me unless you i suppose want to, in which case its fine i just dont want to be a problem since these are my issues not yours... i suppose you could just refrain from posting but sometimes people still do even though they would rather not..i dunno. i just didnt want to seem like i was taking advantage of anyone since i've recieved so much input. but ANYWAY.

If you're posting here, apparently you want some help with this... the first step to solving a problem is understanding a problem exists. Don't apologize for being you. When I read between the lines, this paragraph says "I'm not worth your time, don't bother with me." You don't ever want to even hint that, ever, to anyone.

In topics concerning the difficult friend... DO NOT choose a rose. Each flower means something, and though us guys don't get the meaning, you should do a bit of research about it before diving in. Roses say I love you and want to f&%k you. I don't think that's the idea you want to leave laying around.

Honestly, I'd trust to your gut concerning her. Figure out what it is she wants and give it to her on your own terms.

She's talking to me!! (possible GF) it took 3 days, but she said hi. then a few hours later when i'm not busy, and we're talking! it's weird though, i still don't get her.... i was worried at first when we first met and she talks about sexual things, but i think she is just one of those that likes to think about people....and delve kinda deep into their personal stuff...i dont know? is this normal? i mean wtf?

i'm going to be blunt, she asked me if masturbation was a touchy subject....not earlier but a few minutes ago!! this is the second sexual topic...not a huge deal but it was so fucking RANDOM!

and i'm like....in my mind...going....WTF??!?!?

I mean, woah? am i normal to assume that's a bit...out there? we've been really open with each other so far, but going from not talking barely at all to asking me questions about jerking off?

i dont know how to interpret that. now i'm really fucking confused.... is she trying to figure out what kinda guy i am? or something? digging up shit to throw into the fan without seeming hostile? i dont get it....

Pardon me? Say that again? She... what?

Firstly, let's not deny that every guy beats it like a red headed step child. So, let's not flatter ourselves. But, obviously, you don't want to say that to a potential girlfriend. When I'm questioned about what I do in the shower, I say: "well you see; everyone, and I mean everyone, either sings or masterbates in the shower... me? Well, let me tell ya, I can sing like no body's buisiness"

Futhermore, chicks don't talk about sex with guys they don't want to be in bed with. In my honest opinion, she is trying to put up a giant "I want you now" sign.

Time to man up and spread your seed mate. Ya know what, cut the crap with this girl... if you like her, go for it. When you two are alone, and the moment is right, look her in the eyes and tell her you want to be with her, and then kiss her. She'll either kiss you back or slap you silly. She wants you to make the first move, and if you don't, nothing will ever happen.

Put your hand on the small of her back and lean in for the first kiss. DO NOT ask for permission, just go for it. Just do your thing, she's shown interest and if you don't pick up on it, she'll lose that interest. You're working with the 20 hour rule now.

 

[supra_g]

well it doesn't seem like people were to interested in this after i said you could ignore it (go figure...haha) but we're doing a little bit better. tonight she's flying back and i get to pick her up and take her home... hopefully the car ride back goes well. I'm thinking of mentioning that we just start over clean slate but i might just let that go unsaid... that was about the possible gf situation btw, the other best friend girl gets to wait until after my midterm.

The "start over clean slate" might not work...the both of you are always remember (or bring up) what had happened in the past such as this. Instead of "starting over," I suggest you guys realized what happened (problems, etc), appreciate (recognize) it, and go on with your relationship...