First, about oil in the intake piping; Although this is not very nice, it is normal. Oil gets sucked in from the PCV pipe connected to the top of the valve covers. Caution: Do not seal this off in an attempt to stop it. You could add a catch can but let's not worry about that right now. Just leave it alone.
Now, about oil in the coolant; My son's N/A was doing the same thing recently. It was also putting out white smoke in the exhaust. There were no traces of coolant in the oil however (not sure why). So, I ran a leakdown test and found that #4 was causing a very small amount of air bubbling up in the radiator. I had a soda bottle on the overflow hose and found it would push out 1/2 cup of coolant while under pressure for 5 minutes. This was a small leak and probably preliminary to a bad one. Bottom line - BHG. However, I knew the HG had been replaced by Toyota a few years ago so I figured what have I got to lose. I retorqued the head and IT FIXED IT! No air bubbles and no more white smoke. At least for now. Time will tell if it comes back.
You might want to try the retorque. It is a pretty simple procedure and like I said at this point, what have you to to lose? If you do, remember to flush out your cooling system after since the exhaust gases from the BHG will leave some corrosive acid type stuff in the coolant. Good luck.