found it, i saved it to notepad when i ran across it from a previous post....
to bypass the neutral safety switch on the AUTO harness (I see he's switched to a manual one now, and i don't know what to say about how to fix that) there is 4 plugs that go the the tranny, one is a round plug with 3 wires, white, black, and blue, just splice the white abnd black together (using the tranny side of the harness is best so you don't have to cut up the engine harness). to make reverse lights work, use the blue wire from that plug and there is a 6 wire round plug, all you need is the black one from there; use the blue and black to connect to the 2 wire plug coming off the manual transmission.