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Dam Ian,
lie to me at least... me talking to my dog can only get me so far till i feel better...
Will
lie to me at least... me talking to my dog can only get me so far till i feel better...
Will
Will: Sorry isn't going to happen as in the long run it's NOT helping you!
Dude if you were close by you'd get some initial sympathy then if you didn't snap out of it I'd hurt you!
Dude if you were close by you'd get some initial sympathy then if you didn't snap out of it I'd hurt you!
yayy, a start on the fone , on why she didnt come over,,,,, , , said sh'ed be over firsrt thing 2morrow.. , I'll be slleeping off a hang over though..
I do know why she did call though..
I nver gave it much thought till; now, but I did say in a text'd that I would marry her..... sign..., so I guess thats throwing her threw a loop///..
would I ?
yea, i would...
Will
I do know why she did call though..
I nver gave it much thought till; now, but I did say in a text'd that I would marry her..... sign..., so I guess thats throwing her threw a loop///..
would I ?
yea, i would...
Will
booze wont solve anything, if anything it'll make it worse for yourself (depressant) and for your ex (thinking your a no good piss pot)
only way you can sort this out is to get yourself back on track, get off the cans , get fit, do whatever you've got to do to feel better about yourself and move on. dont go burning shit, cutting yourself or whatever stupid shit people think about in these situations because it prooves nothing.
begging her and saying you'll marry her in drunken texts will only exacerbate the situation - women dont want guys to be desperate and blubbering messes, thats their job, the guy is mean to be strong, dependant and wearing pants most of the time so dont give her what she wants and turn into a disgrace.
You want sympathy, you want find it in the bottom of the bottle or on a car forum when your in the wrong.
only way you can sort this out is to get yourself back on track, get off the cans , get fit, do whatever you've got to do to feel better about yourself and move on. dont go burning shit, cutting yourself or whatever stupid shit people think about in these situations because it prooves nothing.
begging her and saying you'll marry her in drunken texts will only exacerbate the situation - women dont want guys to be desperate and blubbering messes, thats their job, the guy is mean to be strong, dependant and wearing pants most of the time so dont give her what she wants and turn into a disgrace.
You want sympathy, you want find it in the bottom of the bottle or on a car forum when your in the wrong.
Smokey's right, but change 'want' in the end of that, to 'won't'
Don't be a dick, and don't beg. For the love of God, do not beg. When it is all said and done, the only thing in this world you can EVER completely count on, is yourself. Do not belittle yourself for ANYONE, because YOU must always be there for YOU.
It's a harsh lesson, man, no doubt. And really, the sooner you look into a mirror, and see YOURSELF, and realize that you want something better for YOU - that's when you'll pull yourself out of this funk, and start building something better for yourself.
Don't be a dick, and don't beg. For the love of God, do not beg. When it is all said and done, the only thing in this world you can EVER completely count on, is yourself. Do not belittle yourself for ANYONE, because YOU must always be there for YOU.
It's a harsh lesson, man, no doubt. And really, the sooner you look into a mirror, and see YOURSELF, and realize that you want something better for YOU - that's when you'll pull yourself out of this funk, and start building something better for yourself.
I just read the whole thread and I hope that you're doing o.k. Will, but I've read other threads from you, and you were going to commit suicide. Honestly I think you need alcoholics anonymous more than you need a woman. You are too depressed to be drinking all the time. I don't know you, but if I did I couldn't hang out with you. I can't be around depression all the time. I'm not a mean person either, but it seems you want pity and miracle answers when there are none. You have to change. Either you do it for you or for her, but you're heading down a path of destruction. More than likely it will be self destruction. I wish you all the best, but I can't stand to hear someone whine about losing someone and act like they don't know why they've lost them. You stated alot of reasons why most women would have left you, but you just don't see them. First thing you need to do is sober up and take a shower.
I really do wish you all the best, but I don't feel sorry for you. I've been around alcoholics and they never want to take the blame for anything. I don't know if you're an alocholic or not, but if you're not, you're not far from it. Hopefully you can get her to stay and you can work this out. I think you have got some changes to make though. Good luck.....................lol
I already knew this, but now it's confirmed. IJ and Weezl know everything about everything. We're lucky to have their wisdom around when we need it. (no sarcasm was meant)
I really do wish you all the best, but I don't feel sorry for you. I've been around alcoholics and they never want to take the blame for anything. I don't know if you're an alocholic or not, but if you're not, you're not far from it. Hopefully you can get her to stay and you can work this out. I think you have got some changes to make though. Good luck.....................lol
I already knew this, but now it's confirmed. IJ and Weezl know everything about everything. We're lucky to have their wisdom around when we need it. (no sarcasm was meant)
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Booze is not the answer. (Good advice here from many people who care as much as can be possible on a internet fourm, so take heed man, and STOP DRINKING!)
I don't know your life, but I can say that love gone wrong sucks, and it seems like there is nothing left for you, but that's bullshit.
Life goes on, and you will get over her, and move on.
When I was 23, I was in deep with a Dutch girl, so much so that I chased her all over the world, and finally in Holland, it was finally over. (After 7 times of getting engaged, and having her break it off, you would think I should get the hint eh?)
Funny part is she comes back to me a few months later in Idaho, and want's to get back together... Very tempting, but I had a new girl by then, and had moved on, so I said NO. It was very liberating, and completely not what I'd have thought possible just a few months sooner, but when they trample your heart, and you finally learn that it's time to move on, going back is not an option.
So now I'm nearly 40, have two great kids, and a wife that's a great woman to have around.
You know what's funny? This Dutch gal has tracked me down 3 times over the past 17 years and wants to get back together! She's psycho for sure, and I think the letter from my wife telling her to go away finally might have worked.. LOL
My point is, get sober, get cleaned up and get back out there as painfull as it is, you have to move on, and it will get better the sooner you get moving.
I don't know your life, but I can say that love gone wrong sucks, and it seems like there is nothing left for you, but that's bullshit.
Life goes on, and you will get over her, and move on.
When I was 23, I was in deep with a Dutch girl, so much so that I chased her all over the world, and finally in Holland, it was finally over. (After 7 times of getting engaged, and having her break it off, you would think I should get the hint eh?)
Funny part is she comes back to me a few months later in Idaho, and want's to get back together... Very tempting, but I had a new girl by then, and had moved on, so I said NO. It was very liberating, and completely not what I'd have thought possible just a few months sooner, but when they trample your heart, and you finally learn that it's time to move on, going back is not an option.
So now I'm nearly 40, have two great kids, and a wife that's a great woman to have around.
You know what's funny? This Dutch gal has tracked me down 3 times over the past 17 years and wants to get back together! She's psycho for sure, and I think the letter from my wife telling her to go away finally might have worked.. LOL
My point is, get sober, get cleaned up and get back out there as painfull as it is, you have to move on, and it will get better the sooner you get moving.
Your relationship has been over for a while now if shes already planning to leave, it may not seem like it but letteing her go and moving on, as others have said, will help you be a lot happier. If you were meant to be she wouldn't be leaving and would never have even been given the lead to that job. Fate works oddly and it can suck but theres a reason shes going away, I'm not meaning anything religious as I am not religious, but I do think somethings with people especially happen for a reason other than our own wants.
GOOD LUCK
GOOD LUCK
Sorry for you dude. Been there. /end pity party
Ian gave you the most useful information on post #7.
You can't change her mind.
This is not to make you feel insignificant rather to realize the possibilities. Do you know the population of your city, state, the US? There are other women out there. Take what you learned from this relationship and forge a new, stronger one. At 32 I can't believe this was your first girlfriend. You have had other break ups, you made it through those. You will this one too.
Ian gave you the most useful information on post #7.
You can't change her mind.
This is not to make you feel insignificant rather to realize the possibilities. Do you know the population of your city, state, the US? There are other women out there. Take what you learned from this relationship and forge a new, stronger one. At 32 I can't believe this was your first girlfriend. You have had other break ups, you made it through those. You will this one too.
Your going to have to let her go. You stated already she has a new prospect in the job sit,she's moving to another state,and she does not want you anymore. Sounds pretty final to me.willfish said:
What makes you think she still wants you? You going to be moving into,"this guy creeps me out" mode,that's something that time,gasoline,and soap won't wash off.
Cut your losses and move on and stop with the whiney "But she might still love me" bs,SHE has already left the building