CTsupra
Supramania Contributor
i have to agree with theWeezL (agreeing from the same experience), but damn dude, letter with your own blood?
how do you go about keeping a X
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theWeezL said:
Fuck,, !! dude, I just shed a few tears after reading that,,, honest...
you sound like a man a woman would want to keep, what happened, no offense, what did you do wrong ? or what did she say you did wrong. etc ... sorry to pry.. , I just dont get women, at my age, an I'm 32..
very heart felt story though man...
Will
Syris said:
I just cant do that. my work is in PGH , she quit her job, not being selfish, , she honestly can find one in an throughout pgh somewhere...
Will
JustAnotherVictim
Supramania Contributor
Thanks, it was alittle hard to write because it was the first time in two months I thought about that night.
To be honest I really dont know what happened to our relationship. One of the core issues was her desire to have children (bilogical clock was ringing in her ears at age 37) and to be perfectly honest I wasnt the best provider. Long story short, I took her for granted...and paid dearly.
We had been great roomates, friends, lovers and partners over the years. But it had really kinda just become friends the last few years. We still laughed and got along, but there wasnt alot of intimacy in our relationship.
But this thread isnt about me...its about you. And I was hoping that by relaying my story I might save you a little heartache and pain, and maybe save her from it as well. The best thing you can do is be a good person. Dont fight her about it. Dont beg and belittle yourself on her account. You could ask her to write down the things about you that make her mad or made her want to leave. Tell her you would like her to do this for you not so you can change for her, but so you can change yourself so you can just be a better person. If she is willing to give you a list then take it to heart. Dont argue with it, and dont try to justify why you might disagree with some of what she says. Its gonna bve from her perspective.
Make the change in your life that you need to, to remove these negative aspects of yourself. But do it for yourself, not for her. Dont even tell her you're doing it. If you can be lucky enough to remain friends she will see it in you eventually all on her own. If its meant to be you two will work it out. If not you have lost nothing and gained everything.
Good luck my friend, no matter what happens.
To be honest I really dont know what happened to our relationship. One of the core issues was her desire to have children (bilogical clock was ringing in her ears at age 37) and to be perfectly honest I wasnt the best provider. Long story short, I took her for granted...and paid dearly.
We had been great roomates, friends, lovers and partners over the years. But it had really kinda just become friends the last few years. We still laughed and got along, but there wasnt alot of intimacy in our relationship.
But this thread isnt about me...its about you. And I was hoping that by relaying my story I might save you a little heartache and pain, and maybe save her from it as well. The best thing you can do is be a good person. Dont fight her about it. Dont beg and belittle yourself on her account. You could ask her to write down the things about you that make her mad or made her want to leave. Tell her you would like her to do this for you not so you can change for her, but so you can change yourself so you can just be a better person. If she is willing to give you a list then take it to heart. Dont argue with it, and dont try to justify why you might disagree with some of what she says. Its gonna bve from her perspective.
Make the change in your life that you need to, to remove these negative aspects of yourself. But do it for yourself, not for her. Dont even tell her you're doing it. If you can be lucky enough to remain friends she will see it in you eventually all on her own. If its meant to be you two will work it out. If not you have lost nothing and gained everything.
Good luck my friend, no matter what happens.
CtSupra said:
:momaru: :greddy:
When she comes over hit it good one last time and then tell her stfu and gtfo.
I guess, I am not as good as a man as you guys..
its gottan a bit ugly the past yr. an My attitude about being a complete pick has gotten the best of me.
i REALLY DONT KNOW WHAT ELSE TO DO, oopps sorry bout the caps/
sign....serious, wants one starts falling into depression, its hard man, I think I can see it.., i mean, , I am starting to let my house go , for starters... the hygene is well , I dont care about that much either, , ,, need to shave, an mayb i do stink, I dont know...:icon_conf ..
i dont know men..
sometimes the more I drink the more I think there is only one reason why I bought that 40 cal... I dont nknow men,
I got the normal happy life, just cant figure out why I am so sad all the time........ I just cant figure it out anymore.....
any of you guys wanna b's , hit me up,,,, on yahoo messenger....
my yahoo ID is in my profile here
Will
its gottan a bit ugly the past yr. an My attitude about being a complete pick has gotten the best of me.
i REALLY DONT KNOW WHAT ELSE TO DO, oopps sorry bout the caps/
sign....serious, wants one starts falling into depression, its hard man, I think I can see it.., i mean, , I am starting to let my house go , for starters... the hygene is well , I dont care about that much either, , ,, need to shave, an mayb i do stink, I dont know...:icon_conf ..
i dont know men..
sometimes the more I drink the more I think there is only one reason why I bought that 40 cal... I dont nknow men,
I got the normal happy life, just cant figure out why I am so sad all the time........ I just cant figure it out anymore.....
any of you guys wanna b's , hit me up,,,, on yahoo messenger....
my yahoo ID is in my profile here
Will
Booze isn't the answer Will!
From the picture you paint I can't for the life of me understand why she's left...... <sarcasm>
Let her go clean up your act then try again, this one is broken and she'll never forget.
From the picture you paint I can't for the life of me understand why she's left...... <sarcasm>
Let her go clean up your act then try again, this one is broken and she'll never forget.
And you think she's going to find that attractive Will?
Learn from your mistakes and move on.
No woman on this earth is worth selfdestruction none not a one no matter how much it's hurting now!
Learn from your mistakes and move on.
No woman on this earth is worth selfdestruction none not a one no matter how much it's hurting now!
Will, trust me...I know exactly what your feeling, and to be honest Im kinda in the same boat.
to quote Staind "Ive tasted the cold steel of my life crashing down before me"
Ya gotta try to find something that give you purpose. For me it was my cars, but that wears off. Im kinda in a slump right now myself. Winter is coming and I dont have a place to work so I dont expect to get much done. I got issues in NM I still havent dealt with. I just about out of money. I got next to no friends here in Corvallis. Yeah, Pretty much life sucks for me too, Will.
About the only thing I can say that made a difference for me was quitting drinking. The night before I left NM was the last time I got drunk. Ive had a beer twice since then and to be honest, it just made me feel like shit. Ive had to face the cold reality, that for me, one beer leads to two which leads to three, etc. It was also one of the underlying problems in my marriage.
I just one day said thats it, I dont wanna spend my life drunk anymore.
If your feeling sad, and your thinking self destructive things...please call someone, anyone!
PS Im adding you to my yahoo list.
to quote Staind "Ive tasted the cold steel of my life crashing down before me"
Ya gotta try to find something that give you purpose. For me it was my cars, but that wears off. Im kinda in a slump right now myself. Winter is coming and I dont have a place to work so I dont expect to get much done. I got issues in NM I still havent dealt with. I just about out of money. I got next to no friends here in Corvallis. Yeah, Pretty much life sucks for me too, Will.
About the only thing I can say that made a difference for me was quitting drinking. The night before I left NM was the last time I got drunk. Ive had a beer twice since then and to be honest, it just made me feel like shit. Ive had to face the cold reality, that for me, one beer leads to two which leads to three, etc. It was also one of the underlying problems in my marriage.
I just one day said thats it, I dont wanna spend my life drunk anymore.
If your feeling sad, and your thinking self destructive things...please call someone, anyone!
PS Im adding you to my yahoo list.
dam, its 4 am now here, she blew me off, an never showed,,,, hmm go figure, makes , feel like... hmm
I'm 33, and I've had the experiences, way too many. When she comes over,
ask her, simple, is this the end. no BS. Yes or no, and if she says Yes, then
tell her thanks for being honest, you love her, and you need to get over her.
Ask if you or she wants one last fling (It'll suck and you'll regret it wasn't
better) Then tell her that you loved her and good-bye, make a clean break.
Then be sad for a while, then start going out. Trust me, the next time you
find a girl like that that you wanna keep, you'll not regret the experience and
you'll treat her they way she needs to be treated, and you'll demand she
treat you right. You'll both be happy.
And no matter how "perfect" the very next girl you sleep with is, its a
rebound, and won't work well.
Trust me, it _WILL_ get better. I'm sure of it. And PAY extra attention to
this statement: If by May you're not happy, CONTACT ME, I have a few
tricks up my sleeve, some shit you'll never ever forget.
ask her, simple, is this the end. no BS. Yes or no, and if she says Yes, then
tell her thanks for being honest, you love her, and you need to get over her.
Ask if you or she wants one last fling (It'll suck and you'll regret it wasn't
better) Then tell her that you loved her and good-bye, make a clean break.
Then be sad for a while, then start going out. Trust me, the next time you
find a girl like that that you wanna keep, you'll not regret the experience and
you'll treat her they way she needs to be treated, and you'll demand she
treat you right. You'll both be happy.
And no matter how "perfect" the very next girl you sleep with is, its a
rebound, and won't work well.
Trust me, it _WILL_ get better. I'm sure of it. And PAY extra attention to
this statement: If by May you're not happy, CONTACT ME, I have a few
tricks up my sleeve, some shit you'll never ever forget.
ehh, not to cry the blues, , kinda hard to talk to pple here, cos I disowned my family an realtives i grew up with cos I'm being a stubborn prick at my age, an most of my friends I gfrew up with, , well we all kinda grew apart an nat.......
Will
Will
you'll see...