how do you go about keeping a X

willfish

willfish

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real quick

I got a X G/f , who in a nut shell without me going into details right now since she might be on her way over,, dumped me.

she quit her job, , had a interview out of state, got the job, an will be relocating , in about a week,
pretty much she's tired of my shit, an I am ready to give it all I can,,, desperately trying to convinse her to saty.. ?
any help would be deeply appreiciated..

what ? buy a house together ? marriage ? knock her up ? ,,lol

anything ?
help guys/////


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IJ.

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You have no say in the matter Will it's over!

Women will take a pileOshit in the hope that things will change for the better but if it's gotten to the point where she's walked there's NOTHING you can do to make it right now!

The time that it could have been saved is long gone...

trust me on this I'm old and have a LOT of experience in the subject.....
 
Facime

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You cant make someone love you. If leaving for a job is more important to her than being with you, you already lost her. Learn to live with that and move on. If you fight for her, I forsee ony heartache and pain in your future.

Best of luck though.

edit: and like IJ, Im old and have a fair amount of experience with it myself.
 
willfish

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IJ. said:
You have no say in the matter Will it's over!

Women will take a pileOshit in the hope that things will change for the better but if it's gotten to the point where she's walked there's NOTHING you can do to make it right now!

The time that it could have been saved is long gone...

trust me on this I'm old and have a LOT of experience in the subject.....
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ohh man, your killing me here...
 
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I mentioned this in another thread some time ago, but Im going through a divorce right now. I was happily married for 10 years. Then one day, my wife says "we need to talk". Three weeks later I was back in Oregon. I tried to talk it out with her, I was calm and rational, and in 11 years together I have never once raised my voice to her. I sent letters, and music that expressed my feelings. Told her how much I loved her and that I would do anything she wanted to make it work. I offered to go to counceling, asked her to write down anything that she thought would have made it different. I gave her the space she asked for. I never once disrespected her wishes, and when faced with difficult decisions about division of assets told her she could have anything and everything she wanted and I would dispose of anything left.

She took it all. I retained my tools, my photography stuff, a stereo and my clothes...and my dog. On my last day in NM I loaded up a last load of stuff she wanted, hugged her real tight, told her I was sorry and that I wished her nothing but happiness in her life. Then I went in side after she left and balled my eyes out all night. The next morning I left. Ive spoken with her a total of maybe 5 times on the phone since then always on her terms because she wont give me her number. I recently wrote her a letter (which I have to send to her parents because I dont have her address) telling her that I now know the woman I married doesnt exist anymore and that whenever she wants I'll sign the paperwork and she can be free of me.

When I was much younger I made a similiar mistake of taking a woman for granted and lost her too. I fought with all my heart and soul. I used to follow her and see where she was all the time. I wrote her a letter in my own blood once. I bet you can figure out how well that went huh?

I guess my point is that no matter what you do a woman who flips that switch on their feelings is a lost cause. They have already decided not to love you, and nothing you say or do will ever change that. Forget all that sappy bullshit that TV and movies makes you think will work. Trust me, standing outside a woman's dorm room with a boom box playing "your" song will only make you look like a fool and make her think you are an idiot.

Save yourself some heartache. Go get drunk...when your sober again, start picking up the pieces of your life and move on. Think of it as a new phase in your life. Appreciate some freedom. Do whatever it takes to make yourself get over her, but...get over her.
 
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