Have much in common with you? Or Anything? I'm looking for a girl who has more in common with me then my EX did, but I'm not sure this will work either. Advice?
Does your serious relationship partner
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My girl and I like about 70% of the same stuff. We have almost exactly the same taste in food, music, and clothing(she's a little more conservative).
As far as hobbies go, I'm into cars/computers/guitar, while she's more into dancing/tennis.
I don't think it's so much having general stuff in common, it's more about having common goals.
If you want kids and she doesn't = bad
She wants kids and you don't = bad
Both want kids = good
This works for many topics, such as:
Marriage(are you going to date for years or get married), Housing(rent, own, build), Career(college, corporate, etc...).
As far as hobbies go, I'm into cars/computers/guitar, while she's more into dancing/tennis.
I don't think it's so much having general stuff in common, it's more about having common goals.
If you want kids and she doesn't = bad
She wants kids and you don't = bad
Both want kids = good
This works for many topics, such as:
Marriage(are you going to date for years or get married), Housing(rent, own, build), Career(college, corporate, etc...).
I'm the opposite. My wife and I have very little in common - we both have separate hobbies, food preferences, etc. She wanted kids and I wasn't crazy about the idea, but I decided I was willing to support her on it, and in return, she supports my crazy hobbies - currently extreme mountain biking and the Supra. 
It's working rather well for us, we're both happy and we've been together for over 10 years now.
It's working rather well for us, we're both happy and we've been together for over 10 years now.
I have always heard that its not the best to be the same type of person, because you can get bored, you know what the other person likes and this can become a selfish type of relationship, but im sure it has worked for lots of people.
Opposites attract.
remeber that, i think its very true.
Opposites attract.
remeber that, i think its very true.
lol, well, my gf and me only have about 15% of stuff in common.
she loves to dance, im too shy to do it.
i love cars and to drive, shes having a tough time learning how to.
we are both intellectually obsessive (1 thing in common).
shes a rich girl used to getting things whenever she wants, im a lower middle class guy who lives with his widowed mom and i cant stand materialistic people.
she is complicated in a simple way, im simple in a complicated way
she wants to be a sexologist, i just want to deal with computers and cars.
im a video game fan, shes not.
she knows spanish, i know english, we both know french and learning other languages.
she has german blood........ i wont comment.
shes a bit dark skinned, im white!
she likes luxurious new expensive cars, i just like old classicals and efficient cars that will take me from point A to B efficiently (or something that goes fast)
she believes in making everyone happy, i believe in forcing everyone to get along.
shes romantic, im an idiot.
shes smart, but i have a 131 IQ (i was too bored to really try).
she can swim, im hydrophobic
her dad tears ass through the galaxy.... its gonna take me a few years to lift 50 pounds with just one hand without struggling (and hes 60!)
i love her...... and she loves me, even though we are almost complete opposites!
(im stopping cuz this could keep on going forever)
she loves to dance, im too shy to do it.
i love cars and to drive, shes having a tough time learning how to.
we are both intellectually obsessive (1 thing in common).
shes a rich girl used to getting things whenever she wants, im a lower middle class guy who lives with his widowed mom and i cant stand materialistic people.
she is complicated in a simple way, im simple in a complicated way
she wants to be a sexologist, i just want to deal with computers and cars.
im a video game fan, shes not.
she knows spanish, i know english, we both know french and learning other languages.
she has german blood........ i wont comment.
shes a bit dark skinned, im white!
she likes luxurious new expensive cars, i just like old classicals and efficient cars that will take me from point A to B efficiently (or something that goes fast
)she believes in making everyone happy, i believe in forcing everyone to get along.
shes romantic, im an idiot.
shes smart, but i have a 131 IQ (i was too bored to really try).
she can swim, im hydrophobic
her dad tears ass through the galaxy.... its gonna take me a few years to lift 50 pounds with just one hand without struggling (and hes 60!)
i love her...... and she loves me, even though we are almost complete opposites!
(im stopping cuz this could keep on going forever)
D34DC311 said:
Well, she's Catholic and I'm a Jew
She was a cheerleader type in HS and I skated/went to punk shows.
So it's not like we're the same person(although we can finish each others sentences without even knowing the topic), we just have enough in common that we're happy with each others tastes. We're kind of the couple that makes everyone puke(going on 19 months now and still just as happy with each other).
this is the same for me and my girl, she is the party type(she likes clubs), im the shy and reserved type that will only party with people i know.
so her being a cheerleader and u being the punk/rock type, its going to work,
everyone thinks the jock and cheerleader get along, i dont think they do. nuff said you get my point.
so her being a cheerleader and u being the punk/rock type, its going to work,
everyone thinks the jock and cheerleader get along, i dont think they do. nuff said you get my point.
im single,
dont rush into something, you cant force the square in the round hole. just wait for the right one if your serious about it. whats the rush.
dont rush into something, you cant force the square in the round hole. just wait for the right one if your serious about it. whats the rush.
IJ. said:AJ: If it's square you either need to stop or use some Lube you've worn that thing out!
i was waiting for something like that, i posted it then i was like, oh ew.
I would say me and my girl are kinda serious.
We have alot of differences in personality. But that way it kinda helps keep us both in check. Ya know?
Like shes kinda high strung and plays all these different sports at school and marching band and a whole bunch of other stuff.
I'm really laid back, pretty much just work, school and the supra.
I've had one girlfriend before her and shes had 3 boyfriends before me, and shes 2 years younger.
I'm really traditional and conservative and shes a little more liberal. (we are both Christians, so dont get me wrong she didn't vote for Kerry or anything)
Some things we have in common are that we both are creative and somewhat artistic. Shes a painter/drawer/graphic art and Im more of a writer/poet. Our Faith is obviously a common denominator.
Sometimes she gets frustrated at me and the Supra and some of the stuff I do with my friends. And sometimes I get frustrated cause shes so busy and complains about coaches and stuff.
I was a skater and shes a jock. Most of my friends are either gearheads or punkers and her friends are either jocks or preppys.
I was homeschooled from day 1, my mom was a stay at home mom, she went to pre school and both parents have always worked.
I think we are gonna end up together in the end. Its a decision really, you can choose to be with someone and to stay with them. I choose to think about all the good times we have and how beautifal she is.
I could go one but this is long enough. That is all. Unless you wanna hear more?
We have alot of differences in personality. But that way it kinda helps keep us both in check. Ya know?
Like shes kinda high strung and plays all these different sports at school and marching band and a whole bunch of other stuff.
I'm really laid back, pretty much just work, school and the supra.
I've had one girlfriend before her and shes had 3 boyfriends before me, and shes 2 years younger.
I'm really traditional and conservative and shes a little more liberal. (we are both Christians, so dont get me wrong she didn't vote for Kerry or anything)
Some things we have in common are that we both are creative and somewhat artistic. Shes a painter/drawer/graphic art and Im more of a writer/poet. Our Faith is obviously a common denominator.
Sometimes she gets frustrated at me and the Supra and some of the stuff I do with my friends. And sometimes I get frustrated cause shes so busy and complains about coaches and stuff.
I was a skater and shes a jock. Most of my friends are either gearheads or punkers and her friends are either jocks or preppys.
I was homeschooled from day 1, my mom was a stay at home mom, she went to pre school and both parents have always worked.
I think we are gonna end up together in the end. Its a decision really, you can choose to be with someone and to stay with them. I choose to think about all the good times we have and how beautifal she is.
I could go one but this is long enough. That is all. Unless you wanna hear more?
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lanky189
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dont even worry about it.. spend the time with one another having fun and getting to know one another...if it gets to the point you arent learning anything new...perhaps its time to move on
Grim.. do you feel you learn new things about your wife all the time? or have you settled into the familiarity?
I found myself getting bored with my last gf..and that was a 4year relationship
i think people try to over analyze relationships..if its gonna work..it WILL work..for the most part, all relationships need some extra effort from BOTH parties, but for the most part (beyond certain compromises i.e. Grims' example) it should be easy and fun, and you will know its a sure thing when it is.
Grim.. do you feel you learn new things about your wife all the time? or have you settled into the familiarity?
I found myself getting bored with my last gf..and that was a 4year relationship
i think people try to over analyze relationships..if its gonna work..it WILL work..for the most part, all relationships need some extra effort from BOTH parties, but for the most part (beyond certain compromises i.e. Grims' example) it should be easy and fun, and you will know its a sure thing when it is.
umm, WTF does that mean, if you were born in germany then you are german, if your parents were german or have german in them and you were born in the states then you have german in you but ur not german. see what i mean.