Little update still can't figure it out.
the ground is attached to ground point B on the side of the intake like it should be so I'm not sure why when the o2 sensor is plugged in it gets power through the ground, but I cut that wire and grounded the sensor to the chassis and still have the error. one wire is power, one is ground, and one is signal and all appear to be working as far as I can tell with my test light and air fuel ratio gauge working. I opened my ecu and I didn't see anything blown in that.
Now the weird part, I have the car off reset the codes and then turn the key to on and no codes show up, but as soon as I start my car the code 21 pops up, this is driving me crazy.