Changing Last Name with Marriage

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whudafux

whudafux

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Well, me and my girlfriend were talking about people changing names when they get married. Since I am the only male child in my family I need to carry on my name and she is the only child in her family so her last name will not be passed on when she gets married. She's saying when she gets married she wants to hyphenate her last name. What does everyone think about this? Would you hyphenate the last names if your partner wanted to or would you keep the males last name?
 
AF1JZ

AF1JZ

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I'd have her change it like most people do. What are the 2 last names? Just imagine everytime she has to write her last name with the dash. It would think it would be a pain in the ass. Just my thoughts.
 
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dugums

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You should only ask yourself if you are alright with it. Why even hyphenate? She can keep her name and you yours. I find nothing wrong with it.

If you plan on having kids, might as well establish how that's going to go down now.
 
LilMissMkIII

LilMissMkIII

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I'm old-fashioned and will be taking my husband's name, should i ever get married.

In your case, it is ultimately between the 2 of you. I see no issue with her keeping her own name, but if you two have kids, you will need to sort out what surnames they will have.
 
whudafux

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I said we should just keep my last name. But she still wants to hyphenate. We've only been dating for a year and a couple of months so it was just a hypothetical situation. But if we were to get married and we chose to hyphenate it would be Coughlin-De Joseph. A mouthful, lol.
 
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This was an issue for my wife and me in the beginning. Not because she was hung up on her maiden name, but she wanted to keep her first married name as a hyphen. Her first husband died of cancer and she had a lot of feelings about having a different last name than her daughter from that marriage. It turned out it was really important to me for us to share my name and not hyphenate it. To me, anything else was just an indication that we weren't really becoming one in marriage - regardless of whether it was her maiden name or from a previous marriage. She was marrying me forever and our daughter would switch her name one day. This was one of those issues that was important enough to me to pull for and she agreed; and I love her for it. I could have given in because of her motivation for her daughter, but I have always had an issue with hyphenating for "feminist" reasons. You are either married for real or you hang on to your old life, but that's just my opinion.
 
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OneJoeZee

OneJoeZee

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LOL@ the landslide vote.

Why are you asking a male dominated forum? It's not us that have to change our last name.

I've had teachers with hyphenated last names but it was just the female that did it. The husband didn't.
 
drunk_medic

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If women's names had been passed down from generation to generation, and that was where names and bloodlines were traced by, then she would have a reason besides feminism. I don't see where she has a leg to stand on here.
The woman should take the man's last name or the two people should be married and keep their own last names. Many people do the hyphenation for "professional reasons" [ie: they built a business reputation with that name], but if it comes down to that, I think they should just keep their name and wear a ring.
 
Nick M

Nick M

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DreamerTheresa said:
Please. Hyphenating is for obnoxious pseudo-feminists.


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the future Mrs. Donohue
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Not quite. The feminst does not care. They let Hillary have free pass to be called Mrs Clinton, instead of Hillary Rodham Clinton whenever she is in front of certain crowds.

One other thing, it is "Mrs Mike Donohue", or T.D. not actually Mrs T.D.
 
SupraMario

SupraMario

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Pick up both last names.
I don't care for last names, People know who you are because of who you are, not because of your last name.
 
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