Ok, so i think i fixed the problem. I set my boost controller at 19.8 psi with a limiter and warning feature which sets my boost pressure back to the actuator spring's default if it reaches over 20 psi. My boost sits at 19.6 (not complaining). The car feels so much more powerful BTW. Its nice. Like driving on ice.
SH- this fixed my problem, however it may not work for you. I may have gotten lucky. Its up to you if you want a band-aid like i have, or if you want a fix. You don't have to dump money into a top of the line boost controller but it worked for me. Anyways thanks, and feel free to PM me.
Also thanks Bishop and Mike