Iridium plugs have a fine wire to PREVENT spark blowout. The finer the tip the easier it is for the spark to jump the gap. A larger tip does nothing but allow more wear surface on copper core plugs so that they have a longer wear life (typically 15-25K miles). They also make fine wire copper core plugs (NGK racing series, they end with a "G"... ex BPR6EG instead of BPR6ES) for racing that are designed to only last a few thousand miles. Motocross racers use them alot.
The advantage of Iridium being used for plugs is that you can gap them a little larger than you would a copper plug (ex, .032 instead of .028) so that you have a larger spark (that's just as strong), and have better service life due to the super hard wearing nature of iridium. I usually replace performance style iridium plugs every 30-45K miles. "high mileage" iridiums have a larger center electrode and last longer (100K), but they can't be gapped as wide for a larger spark cause the spark will blow out.
As for iridiums being crap cause they crack....
If you have the tip of the iridium plugs breaking off, you are probably gapping them incorrectly or they were dropped (hard) by someone before you got them. Iridium is as fragile as porcelain. If you bump or pry on the iridium tip with the plug gapping tool it will crack and eventaully fall off. If you use the correct gapping tool (wire type) and gap adjusting tool (it pries only on the ground strap) you won't have problems with the tip cracking off. I've installed hundreds of iridium plugs and have never had one with a problem.
Having said that... I use NGK copper core (and always have in all my cars except the speed3 which has fine wire iridium plugs stock, with a 35K change interval). I like changing my plugs every 10K even if they aren't worn out. I can keep an eye out for problems (oil burning, lean conditions, rich conditions, etc..) by looking at the plugs more often than if I changed them every 20K or more. Plus I don't have to deal with plugs that are seized into the head from being in there for 100K untouched.