another "ask the guy community" question about girls

PROJECT N00b

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May 22, 2005
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ok so the girl that i used to like (and she felt the same way) is having doubts about her relationship, as if things are going down hill...and so im here talking to her, about the issue and being the nice person that i am helping out. one time we had a huge convo about why things between us went sour, and it was because at the time we were 'seeing' each other a guy she liked at the same time told her that he felt jealous everytime i hugged her, and he knew that there was something going on between us. anyways so after he told her how he felt she backed down and put herself in a love triangle, and as everyone knows...they just dont work. so now we are good friends, and there is still a part of both of us that says that we still like each other. right now shes in a relationship...like it says up there, and things arent going so great...which brings me to say this...when we had our big convo she asked me if i sitll liked her i said yes i do, and i told her that i would wait till shes single again. and so heres my question, the way things are going with her relationship now...it doesnt look so good, i hope that i get to be with her after shes done with her BF...but not right away, like ill be there to comfort her when she needs it like every guy should...and then when things start to get better, ill do what i have to do. so guys...tell me your thoughts.
 

Syris

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youve more or less made it clear to her that you will be a second option to her, not good. The situation you are in has a very likely chance of could happen again.
 

Big Wang Bandit

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Feb 21, 2006
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^ agreed. I have never really been in a relationship(no laughing.) and well what you described never wored for me. I basically gave up on the ladies a while ago. I have acar. thats my main focus.
 

Syris

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Bryan, OH /Lima, OH
For relationships always remember this "nice guys finish last", now yes their is some cases where the nice guy comes out on top but not very likely. I say this from experience
 

Steve_N

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Agreed, Don't let her know your there & waiting if & when things go south with the current relationship. Give her & yourself space & you date other chicks even if you don't like them 1/2 as much. If she has feelings & wants to be with you she will let it be known alot faster if she thinks you won't be there. Don't put your life on hold while she figures hers out. Who knows you may just miss the love of you life if ya do.
 

Syris

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That is a very correct assumption. Girls like the exciting bad boys thought the teens and twenty's. But 30's come around and they start to realize that those bad boys cant exactly take care of them as well as what a nice guy can for the rest of their life
 

PROJECT N00b

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May 22, 2005
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thats my mentality too. about the nice guys thing...which is why i realized ive been an asshole lately, and I too havent been in a relationship...ever. maybe you guys are right...maybe she isnt the true love, but theres something that keeps me tied to her, no matter how mad i get at her or no matter what happens i still find myself liking her...whether or not i like someone else, no one can ever give me the feelings i had with and for her...even her mom loves me.
 

Syris

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you stay attached because you havent had better yet. Get out there and date and you will find out that there is many out there that are much better. The way I go about it and set your standards higher each raltionship and youll find the one that suits you sooner or later. But its an uphill battle being a nice guy
 

PROJECT N00b

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May 22, 2005
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it really is, for me it always seems that i meet a nice girl...things are looking bright and then its over as soon as it started...one because they leave thier options open, meaning they like me and another person(s) or they are still tied to thier ex's. and thats why i have patience with relationships now...im in no rush, i just want to have the chance to be with her. and im sure youve had that feeling once, where you couldve gotten with 'her' but things went sour...and when you bump heads again a few years later, the feelings start rushing back.
 

Facime

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why do you kids always insist on making your lives more complicated by getting involved with women...


stick with hookers and booze!