well, today i decided to go out and poke around again on some wires. i know that cylinders 1 and 6 are dead. so i look at the igniter to narrow it down some more and i discover that the wires going to the coils for 1 and 6 are crossed. see, my harness was cut so i had to wires up the igniter myself. pin 6B is for cyl 1 and 12B is for cyl 6. i simply had them crossed and now it revs like it should and idles differently. it smokes a little more than before now as well. but it drives soo much better, but still has a problem building boost. i'm pretty sure there are holes in my intercooler. and my wastegate sucks. and i found a water nipple is starting to leak, so i have to replace that before i drive it again.
so my ECU is fine and so is the rest of the electronics and wiring. it still has a little roughness revving, but i'm sure it's my spark plugs. i'm sure new ones will fix that.
when i get back from deployment i am going to get a turbo from driftmotion, the blitz exhaust, a different wastegate and another intercooler. finish up cleaning up the wiring and make the engine shine. i'm so excited now that it runs like it should, minus a few hickups still to be resolved.