Dont give up now.
If the connectors are fine & wires
Pull out the headlight relay in the front junction box
Brown rectanglular box in junction box #2 behind the battery in the nose of the car.
If you pull it out your headlight lights should go off.
If they dont your junction box or headlight wires are bad.
If your headlights go off check pin 3 of the connector for a ground with meter ohm to ground from pin 3, or test light positive batery post to other end in pin1 headlight relay.
If you have a ground your relay is fine if not replace the headlight relay with a good one!
Next step is to check retractor control #2 if your headlights flip up and down correct with the headlight switch then the switch is fine.
if both the flip up operation & the headlight contol on off dont work its your headlight switch.
the easiest way to check the headlight retractor control or integration control #2 is to replace it with a know good one
The box is lockated and accessed through the driverside underthe steering wheel just change the box if that fixes it then the box.
The only thing left is a ground in the wiring and there is also a diode panel its the little square box baried behind the dash in the wiring loom in the blue plastic trim there is diodes in there for blocking other signals from feading other electronics i could look further into it if you dont find the problem right away.
I think you may find your problem in the headlight relay though the spring that retracts the swithc inside the headlight relay maybe bad.