Interesting...
When I finished my 7M-GTE swap, as soon as I connected the battery, the headlights turned on. They didn't pop up, they just turned on.
I checked my fuses, and didn't find any that were blown, it just seemed to be that there was a ground signal going to the headlight relay, in the fuse box under the hood.
I eventually ended up cutting the wire, and running a new one to the #1 integration relay, eliminating the factory wiring harness. The ECU is supposed to get that signal as well, and I surmised that it was somehow getting a ground through the ECU link, since as soon as I wired the #1 integration relay output to the headlight relay, the lights work exactly as they're supposed to.
The only difference is that the engine idle doesn't go up when the headlights are on. Anyway, when you determine which fuse it is, I'd like to know. I'll check mine again.